So, what exactly do you mean?
How many times have we heard the phrases, such as:
Oh, I did not really mean that…
You should understand what I really mean…
I said that, but, how can I mean such a mean thing?
So many times at work and in relationships I have seen people say things that they either do not mean, or at least do not mean to say.
All time classic was when a colleague at work told another one: “But, that’s because you are so fat”. Then followed it up with I-eat-my-words: “I mean, I don’t really mean that…”
The point I am trying to make here is that it is perfectly okay to take your time, evaluate, articulate, and then say what you really want to say.
You’d probably give the benefit-of-doubt to someone impaired by language. But in general, rambling away at 110 KM/h does not help in getting the message across.
If you do not say what you mean, then the world is never going to ‘know’ what you really meant to say.
What’s the rush, Jameson? Take your time!
Filed under: Philosophy
Taking the time to evaluate what one has to say suggests to me that the original thought or meaning is being ‘edited’, before it is articulated out loud. Not thinking about what one says before it is spoken, is perhaps more honest! (though more often than not, undiplomatic, offensive or politically incorrect!).
I never thought of that point of view. Thanks for bringing in the diversity of thought! You are right. Following overcautious approach has its own pitfalls. ‘Political correctness’ can often dilute the truth.
May be my observation was directed to the loud and outspoken people who find a way of stinging the sensible ones 95 out 100 times.
Good to see you!
-Amit